Down in the dumps

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In July i knew something was up when i wasnt having any ovulation pain(normally will put me in bed for the day) and on the 20th i took a pregnancy test..3 actually, all positive. We were absolutely shocked! We went and did the regualr appointments and baby related things. On our unltrasound appointment on Sept 15th( 12wk appt) we learned that the baby had stopped growing and measured 7wks 4ds. We then had to induce a miscarriage since it had been 5wks and it hadnt happened on its own. We knew we didnt want the D&C.

I feel defeated. We spent a ton of time trying to get pregnant, then it happened, and it failed. People have been telling me that being able to get pregnant is a good thing, even if you do miscarry, and i keep thinking that the doctors can help get you pregnant but what do they do to keep you pregnant? The first thing people asked when we told them was when we were going to try again and to me the trying was slightly more devestating than the miscarrying. We cant possibly start trying all over again. We cant wait 1 year to goto a specialist. My husband will be deployed after Sept of next year and then we will have to wait for that to be done before we can try again.

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Dirk and Trish said…
I'm so sorry. That must be devastating. Hope you can find the comfort you need.
September 20, 2009 8:35 PM
Stephanie said…
I'm so sorry. I know how it feels to finally get pregnant after trying for so long, and then to experience a miscarriage. I found no comfort in the fact that I had gotten pregnant either. It was devastating to me to think of starting over. You shouldn't have to wait a full year to see a specialist though. You still haven't had a successful pregnancy, so all the months you've already spent trying count. My Dr was willing to start Clomid whenever I was ready. Good luck.
October 07, 2009 1:30 PM
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