The know-it-all friend

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In my mind there are 2 types of know it all friend. The 1st kind is the friend that has been what you have been through and really knows all the good info to share. The 2nd kind is the person who thinks they know what they are talking about and what you are going through. Obviously, one is much more tolerable than the other. I have 2 short senerios going on with each of these that i need to praise and vent about. Please bare with me

I will start with the 1st know it all friend. I recently met a woman on base who has been trying to conceive for 10 years and has just start Invitro. I have talked to this woman about many things and she always has facts and stories to share. One thing i love most about this lady is that she is also an Army spouse so she has gone through all the insurance stuff already. Somedays she gives me my will to keep pressing on. I greating adore her and I dont know how i will ever be able to show her how much she, and her wealth of knowlegde mean to me(and my husband).

Next is my 2nd type of know it all friend. (gonna vent, beware) This woman and her husband are friends of ours on a pretty casual basis. Lately i have been hanging out with her alot more lately because Im trying to spread my social circle. She will ask me how the progress with babymaking is going and every time i give any info she automatically replies with "Im sure its just a hormone imbalance and they will just give you a shot and it will fix it all" (!!!!!) This answer could not aggravate me more. When i try to tell her thats not what my charts are saying she tells me Im wrong. Very very fustrating. I needed a ride to the Dr on base to get a referral to a specialist (its been a year) and asked her for some help(she being the only person i know whos home all day) she once again went on her rant about hormones. I try to stay very calm and tell her what I DO actually know about whats going on inside me and she tells me Im still wrong and she disputes basic human anatomy(BASIC ANATOMY!!!). I hate this type of know it all friend.

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Dirk and Trish said…
I know exactly what you mean, and I'm sure it really is just an imbalance, just take a pill and everything will work.
Ok, not really. Wouldn't that be nice? If that were the case, wouldn't this blog not be here? Or at least have a different title! I read a book recently (The Conception Chronicles) and there was a chapter about the different types of people you deal with, like what you described. It was funny in a way b/c it sounded so familiar. Good luck to you and the first friend!
July 13, 2009 12:31 AM
Queen Mother said…
People who haven't been through infertility have no clue what they're talking about. They're usually the type who get pregnant quickly without any trouble or only took a few months and thought that constituted infertility. ::rolling my eyes::
July 13, 2009 6:16 PM
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